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While reading chapter 15 about “The Will” I recall the times my parents often called my sister and I “individuals of strong will.” In other words, we were impulsive and too many times shared our thoughts especially when we were told “no”.  As we became older we learned self control which again is another method of training individuals of how to behave and to live harmoniously in society. Management training classes offers several steps in the work in order to deal effectively with difficult people. I generally go through several processes before responding with difficult personnel. I first have an initial thought (not appropriate), next I think how can I respond to accomplish a common goal, then I reflect how will this respond impact our relationship in the next 10 minutes, 60 minutes, 1 day later, etc. Is it really worth it? I often hesitate and reflex before dealing with difficulty people and risk destroying a relationship over a disagreement?  

Previously James discussed in chapter 7 our native reactions which closely relates to this chapter. I believe we are emotional beings, with that said, as we go through things in life it can cause a “motor” reaction inside of us (e.g. increase in breathing, heartbeat, etc). People’s lives may seem to be stress free; however behind closed doors they may take 4 different medications just to make it through the week. My point here is that although you are taught to use some restraint, if you are not taught alternate outlets specifically reduce stress (e.g. workouts, breaks periods throughout the day) the motor reactions inside you can negatively affect your health. I thought it was interesting when James stated “different races of men show different temperament,” because it coincides with how unique we all are within our culture, values and beliefs, which is ultimately portrayed in a person’s character.

I think purpose of James message this chapter is that our ability to control the will directly involves the ability to have a process that explains our daily responses. Teachers can use “balky will” as a teachable moment for different individuals by getting them to think differently.

References

James, W. (2001). Talks to teachers on psychology and to students on some of life’s ideals.

Mineola, NY: Dover.